However funny it might sound but many non-Muslims indeed think that by submitting to Allah, Muslims abandon their parents and that worship of God means disrespect of parents. A Brahmin friend once told me that he would rather worship his parents over God because his parents do so many things for him. I told him that he should be thankful to that entity who causes his parents to do so many things for him. Islam mandates kindness in dealing with one’s parents. As per a Hadith of Sahih Bukhari, to be good and dutiful to one’s parents is 2nd dearest thing to Allah after worship. Many hadiths refer to parents as the door to heaven. To be disrespectful to one’s parents is one of the greatest sins in Islam. Indeed, if one is disrespectful to his/her parents, then they are disrespectful to the Almighty.
- Al-Quran 46:15We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents: In pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth. The carrying of the (child) to his weaning is (a period of) thirty months. At length, when he reaches the age of full strength and attains forty years, he says, “O my Lord! Grant me that I may be grateful for Thy favour which Thou has bestowed upon me, and upon both my parents, and that I may work righteousness such as Thou mayest approve; and be gracious to me in my issue. Truly have I turned to Thee and truly do I bow (to Thee) in Islam.
- Al-Quran 6:151- Say: “Come, I will rehearse what Allah hath (really) prohibited you from”: Join not anything as equal with Him; be good to your parents; kill not your children on a plea of want;- We provide sustenance for you and for them;- come not nigh to shameful deeds. Whether open or secret; take not life, which Allah hath made sacred, except by way of justice and law: thus doth He command you, that ye may learn wisdom.
- Al-Quran 42:23 It is that of which Allah gives good tidings to His servants who believe and do righteous deeds. Say, [O Muhammad], “I do not ask you for this message any payment [but] only good will through kinship.” And whoever commits a good deed – We will increase for him good therein. Indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Appreciative.
- Sahih Bukhari Volume 1, Book 10, Number 505 It was narrated by Abdullah (r)- I asked the Prophet “Which deed is the dearest to Allah?” He replied, “To offer the prayers at their early stated fixed times.” I asked, “What is the next (in goodness)?” He replied, “To be good and dutiful to your parents” I again asked, “What is the next (in goodness)?” He replied, ‘To fight in Allah’s cause.” ‘Abdullah added, “I asked only that much and if I had asked more, the Prophet would have told me more.”
- Sahih Bukhari Volume 3, Book 48, Number 821- It was narrated by Anas (s)- The Prophet was asked about the great sins and he said, “They are:–To join others in worship with Allah,To be undutiful to one’s parents.To kill a person And to give a false witness.”
- Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Number 2 Narrated Abu Huraira- A man came to Allah’s Apostle and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man said. “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man further said, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man asked for the fourth time, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your father.”
- Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Number 4: Narrated ‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr: Allah’s Apostle said. “It is one of the greatest sins that a man should curse his parents.” It was asked (by the people), “O Allah’s Apostle! How does a man curse his parents?” The Prophet said, “‘The man abuses the father of another man and the latter abuses the father of the former and abuses his mother.”
- Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Number 18: Narrated ‘Aisha (r): The Prophet said, “The word ‘Ar-Rahm’ (womb) derives its name from ‘Ar-Rahman’ (i.e. Allah). So whosoever keeps good relations with it (womb i.e. Kith and kin), Allah will keep good relations with him, and whosoever will sever it (i.e. severs his bonds of Kith and kin) Allah too will sever His relations with him.
- Sahih al-Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Number 14-Narrated Abu Huraira: I heard Allah’s Apostle saying, “Whoever is pleased that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be pro longed, then he should keep good relations with his Kith and kin.”